A brothel manager in Europe has highlighted the frequent, and often “stupid,” mistakes men make that lead to confrontations with their partners after visiting adult venues. Catherine DeNoire, who has managed one of the largest brothels in the region for nine years, shared her insights on the behaviors that typically result in couples facing serious issues.
During an interview with news.com.au, DeNoire described how men often fail to think clearly once they enter a brothel. A common misstep is leaving phone location services on, which can easily reveal their whereabouts. She noted that withdrawing large sums of money from a joint account at a nearby ATM also raises red flags. “There are bonus points involved if the man directly transfers from his joint account to the personal account of the sex worker he is seeing,” she added.
While some clients demonstrate caution, others make glaring mistakes. DeNoire explained that savvy clients often come during lunch breaks, leave their phones at the office, and carry cash to avoid detection. “They take measures like showering after their session to eliminate any scent or trace,” she said.
Confrontations in the Brothel
DeNoire recounted instances where partners confronted their significant others inside the brothel. In one case, a woman entered the establishment, convinced her fiancé was inside because she found a brothel ticket in his pocket. “Their wedding was just a week away, and she wanted to see the CCTV footage to confirm his visit,” DeNoire explained. “I had to tell her that I cannot allow random people to view our security footage.”
The situation escalated, with the woman believing DeNoire was covering for her fiancé, leading to the abrupt end of their wedding plans. DeNoire emphasized that women often feel a mix of anger, sadness, and betrayal in these scenarios, particularly if they have a monogamous relationship. “He’s shocked and starts apologizing, claiming he didn’t do anything wrong,” she noted.
In another instance, a man cleverly redirected blame back onto his partner when confronted. “He got mad at her for stalking him, flipping the situation,” DeNoire recalled. Such reactions highlight the complex emotions involved when infidelity is suspected.
Understanding Motivations Behind Visits
DeNoire believes there are various reasons why men, even those in happy marriages, might seek out brothels. She noted that many men seek to explore sexual fantasies they feel uncomfortable discussing with their partners, such as BDSM. Others may turn to brothels as an escape or a form of therapy, simply wanting to vent about personal issues.
“Some men may love their wives, but the sex is gone,” she explained. “They don’t want to pressure their partners into anything they’re not comfortable with and see a brothel as a less risky alternative to an affair.”
The question of whether such visits constitute cheating remains complex. “I can’t assume that every man with a wedding ring is cheating,” DeNoire said. “Some couples have open relationships and are perfectly happy that way.”
Overall, DeNoire’s insights illuminate the often-hidden dynamics of brothel visits and the reactions they provoke. Her observations reveal the intricacies of human relationships, trust, and the varying definitions of fidelity in modern partnerships.
